Cinn--I believe I do need either a relaxing all to myself and about me day, or a something w/ the girls.
well, this week is about the girls. Today is my little sister's 26th birthday. By god that makes me feel so old! And tomorrow is 3mom's birthday, and saturday is her oldest daugthers birthday. yes people, that's 3 birthday's in a row. CQ and I went out buying 3mom presents this weekend. Now, 3mom doesn't hve much money b/c of her situation so she needs things. Like me, she probably needs and wants things to do for herself but w/ 3kids, how do you do that? I was going to buy her a gift certificate to payless or somewhere b/c she's wanted a new pair of boots for the past year and so that i've worked with her. But CQ wanted to get her a margarita glass set, and maybe a chip and dip bowl to go with it. i was fine w/ that. It ended up that we bought her not only a margarita glass set, but a blender, and a crock pot, and a bottle of tequila. WTF, I am not made out of money. Good god. I spent maybe 40 or so dollars (and times two thats 80 dollar present)...double what I'd planned. Well, ok, I planned on giving her maybe 25 for the gift card...and so we spent 40 right, well CQ also wanted to get her daughter this 30 dollar dancing mat and a 13 dollar cd. I was only gonna get the kid maybe something for 10 bucks. And this is before I've even bought my sister anything!!!!
Then CQ wants to take 3mom out to drink tomorrow night and I'm supposed to drive 3mom home since she lives close by and i'm pregnant which equals automatic DD. Well, hello, after I've just spend over 40 bucks on her that I didn't plan on, I really dont wanna spend MORE money that i don't have on drinks...that i can't drink!!! WTF
So that would be my girls night out tomorrow night, but I"m not trying to bar hop or go out to some loud ass place with music and dancing and have my 5 1/2 month pregnant ass all over the place and out till 1am. I can't stay awake hardly past 1030!! I don't know what to do about that either. Should I tell CQ that i don't wanna go? i did kinda in my round about way. I said I didn't wanna go where 3mom wanted (in the city). Frankly, I dn't wanna go at all. the idea of taking her out for a few drinks while we sit around and talk was fine, but not an all out group in the city--sorry folks melly ain't playin that.
My sister is happy today though. i got her one of those flower arrangements thats made out of fruit? oh yeah, good stuff. She got me one last year and it was fantastic. I got her one w/ a chocolate dipping sauce. Yummy! I'm going to go after work today (i know, i know, bad sister) and get her a gift certificate to get her nails and toes done. I got her a shirt and earings that I have yet to wrap! eeks. Then we're going to dinner tonight w/ her co-workers and my mom. so that should be fun.
Well, on cinn's great advice, I'm going to schedule and appointment to get my hair did!
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Very uninteresting post...just talking about crying
so I haven't decided what exactly to do about the dinner. I'm curious to go, but then really don't feel like being the bad guy and going through the emotions of the situation and arguing. Really. I don't.
M--i wish i was more like you and could just POOF write her off. I thought I had done that, but obviously I didn't do too good of a job. Apparently ignoring somoene's phone calls doesn't mean you're not talking to them--go figure.
I had a bad crying/emotional spell yesterday. My first one I think so far of the pregnancy. I just lost it on KS. I was mad it seemed all day b/c it was cold outside. When i woke up and got dressed i wore my new capri's and a 3/4 length shirt and some heels. I didn't know it was raining, so I had to grab a coat. No prob. When I get to work I had to deal with 60 some degree temperature w/ the a/c on. Aren't pregant women supposed to be hot all the time? not me. it's the exact opposite. So I get to pick up Ks (his car is in the shop for more repairs from the break-in) and he cranks up the a/c when he gets in my car. he asked me why I was upset and i said i didn't wanna elaborate cause i didn't wanna make him upset. But i did.
At first i went off about how cold I was (he quickly turned the a/c off in the car and in the house when we got in), then i went into how he didn't still tell me (after me texting and asking on the phone) how the conversation went with his boss, and how i'm lonely and sad b/c my mom might be going to back to Georgia. he felt bad and asked me what to do, but i had no clue. I had tears running down my face, and snot running down my nose.
I dont know why but I just felt extrememly lonely. Ks has his friend that moved in with us, my sister has her baby so that occupies her time, my mom was moving...not that i really spend a lot of time with her, but i try my best to include her and want her to be better. I can't stand KS mom. Not b/c of her as a person, she's a really, really sweet lady but it drives me up a wall that I can't understand her relationship or obsession w/ the grandchild. And this is why I was most upset.
His mom is all up KS first daughters ass, so when will she want to see our baby? Besides being up her ass adn the moms ass, they both live 2 hours away! And now my mom was moving, so there goes the other grandparent. And still my mom is a little on the one flew over the cuckoos nest side, so I mean, not that she'd be vital, btu she's there.
I don't have friends w/ babies. Well, 3mom has 3 girls (7, 3, and 4yolds...not babies), CQ seems totally uninterested in teh baby thing...and well, I just felt extrememly sad.
so there was my first emotional spat. Sorry it wasn't more fun today. I'm so freaking exhausted. and I dont knwo why.
M--i wish i was more like you and could just POOF write her off. I thought I had done that, but obviously I didn't do too good of a job. Apparently ignoring somoene's phone calls doesn't mean you're not talking to them--go figure.
I had a bad crying/emotional spell yesterday. My first one I think so far of the pregnancy. I just lost it on KS. I was mad it seemed all day b/c it was cold outside. When i woke up and got dressed i wore my new capri's and a 3/4 length shirt and some heels. I didn't know it was raining, so I had to grab a coat. No prob. When I get to work I had to deal with 60 some degree temperature w/ the a/c on. Aren't pregant women supposed to be hot all the time? not me. it's the exact opposite. So I get to pick up Ks (his car is in the shop for more repairs from the break-in) and he cranks up the a/c when he gets in my car. he asked me why I was upset and i said i didn't wanna elaborate cause i didn't wanna make him upset. But i did.
At first i went off about how cold I was (he quickly turned the a/c off in the car and in the house when we got in), then i went into how he didn't still tell me (after me texting and asking on the phone) how the conversation went with his boss, and how i'm lonely and sad b/c my mom might be going to back to Georgia. he felt bad and asked me what to do, but i had no clue. I had tears running down my face, and snot running down my nose.
I dont know why but I just felt extrememly lonely. Ks has his friend that moved in with us, my sister has her baby so that occupies her time, my mom was moving...not that i really spend a lot of time with her, but i try my best to include her and want her to be better. I can't stand KS mom. Not b/c of her as a person, she's a really, really sweet lady but it drives me up a wall that I can't understand her relationship or obsession w/ the grandchild. And this is why I was most upset.
His mom is all up KS first daughters ass, so when will she want to see our baby? Besides being up her ass adn the moms ass, they both live 2 hours away! And now my mom was moving, so there goes the other grandparent. And still my mom is a little on the one flew over the cuckoos nest side, so I mean, not that she'd be vital, btu she's there.
I don't have friends w/ babies. Well, 3mom has 3 girls (7, 3, and 4yolds...not babies), CQ seems totally uninterested in teh baby thing...and well, I just felt extrememly sad.
so there was my first emotional spat. Sorry it wasn't more fun today. I'm so freaking exhausted. and I dont knwo why.
Monday, September 10, 2007
I need advice on this missing bridesmaid
I've talked about this girl before, maybe like last month even. but I have to say this and ask for your advice...
I was best friends w/ a girl since 7th grade. through the years we've grown apart for different reasons. I invited her to be one of my bridesmaids for my wedding. it was a last minute thing between hubby and I. We each had a friend who was fairweather and figured this would be the last straw--if either one bailed or didn't work out then we'd be done w/ them.
We've always wanted these two in our wedding (and actually thought when we were younger that these people would be best man/maid of honor contenders). Anyway--so the guy showed up and was there for Hubby's bachelor party, rehearsal dinner, bought the tux, and came to the wedding. My bridesmaid called me the night before the wedding and said she had to work and couldn't get out of it b/c she thought she had someone cover her shift (she's a nurse btw) but then that person called out sick and she was stuck. Now, I'm all for understanding people's situations, but last minute telling her was 6 weeks in advance. She had time to tell whomever she needed off. I found out she bought the dress, so she was doing stuff...but she never returned my calls in the weeks following up to the wedding about hair, nails, rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party, etc.
AFter the wedding, she never called to appologise or ask how it went, never sent a card, nothing. she called me 2 months after the wedding b/c another friend of mine told her off about not coming. She called me to yell at me about that--and I told her she was wrong, too. Now, her excuse in this was a) she had to work, and b) I didn't show up to her son's baptism when I was to be the godmother.
To my defense, this baptism thing--I called her 4x's to tell her I coudln't go and even left messages and she never returned my calls. She didn't tell me she was preg. w/ this kid till she was 7 months in..and to this day (the kid is now 1.5 years old) I've never even met the kid..ever, not even see him! I sent her a long winded email afterwards appologising and explaining myself which led to a few phone calls and her crying saying she was sorry. BUT, I never sent a card or formally appologised either for my actions.
She texted me this morning wanting to go to dinner this weekend. Should I go, or call it over with. I'm over the friendship, but i want to tell her exactly how I feel and have her know what she did was wrong, unacceptable, and b/c of those actions we're no longer friends. Am I wright, or am I just as wrong??
I was best friends w/ a girl since 7th grade. through the years we've grown apart for different reasons. I invited her to be one of my bridesmaids for my wedding. it was a last minute thing between hubby and I. We each had a friend who was fairweather and figured this would be the last straw--if either one bailed or didn't work out then we'd be done w/ them.
We've always wanted these two in our wedding (and actually thought when we were younger that these people would be best man/maid of honor contenders). Anyway--so the guy showed up and was there for Hubby's bachelor party, rehearsal dinner, bought the tux, and came to the wedding. My bridesmaid called me the night before the wedding and said she had to work and couldn't get out of it b/c she thought she had someone cover her shift (she's a nurse btw) but then that person called out sick and she was stuck. Now, I'm all for understanding people's situations, but last minute telling her was 6 weeks in advance. She had time to tell whomever she needed off. I found out she bought the dress, so she was doing stuff...but she never returned my calls in the weeks following up to the wedding about hair, nails, rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party, etc.
AFter the wedding, she never called to appologise or ask how it went, never sent a card, nothing. she called me 2 months after the wedding b/c another friend of mine told her off about not coming. She called me to yell at me about that--and I told her she was wrong, too. Now, her excuse in this was a) she had to work, and b) I didn't show up to her son's baptism when I was to be the godmother.
To my defense, this baptism thing--I called her 4x's to tell her I coudln't go and even left messages and she never returned my calls. She didn't tell me she was preg. w/ this kid till she was 7 months in..and to this day (the kid is now 1.5 years old) I've never even met the kid..ever, not even see him! I sent her a long winded email afterwards appologising and explaining myself which led to a few phone calls and her crying saying she was sorry. BUT, I never sent a card or formally appologised either for my actions.
She texted me this morning wanting to go to dinner this weekend. Should I go, or call it over with. I'm over the friendship, but i want to tell her exactly how I feel and have her know what she did was wrong, unacceptable, and b/c of those actions we're no longer friends. Am I wright, or am I just as wrong??
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Picture Day.
This is my sister's baby...how adorable are those cheeks?? I LOVE this baby. and I'm so happy I get to baby sit him tonight. hehe.
And this is him on his first night out about 2 weeks old...maybe 3??
And this is mommy (my sis) and baby.
And this is him playing around on his bouncer
And this is him on his first night out about 2 weeks old...maybe 3??
And this is mommy (my sis) and baby.
And this is him playing around on his bouncer
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
finally, a decision
Well, against everyone's advice we signed the lease to the new place for a year. We decided we wanted to get the he** out of the 2br apt. And we did. We're now in a great home...and settled for a year. It feels good to be settled, and I can't imagine doing this again in 6 months (I think that was plan b??). Can I recommend NOT moving while pregnant! I felt so tired all weekend, and I wanted to do more, and probably did more than I should've. I don't know how much I"m supposed to be lifting or doing, but I did what I felt I could and left behind what I couldn't.
This way w/ signing the lease for the new place, we have plenty of room for everyone, we can be settled now, during, and after the baby comes. We can buy a house this time next year and not worry about 1st time home programs, rushing, or anything like that. Plus, the baby will be waaay months old and it'll be a better time to move rather than right after the baby comes. I just can't see me or the baby being ready for that. And you never know what the weather will be like to move in Feb.
I went to the doctor today to get a mole checked out. He wanted to remove it, but can't b/c I'm preg. He said to come back after the baby comes and he'll do a biopsy. He said remove it, but then come back for a biopsy. does that make sense?! I'm glad I got it looked at. That makes me feel a ton better. Well, not 100% b/c I'm not sure if its cancerous or just a pesky needs to be gone mole.
The moving was tough, I'm glad its over. I'm sorry to say that we did not have a/c all weekend. It wasn't a bad weekend for not having a/c, but when you're moving up and down steps and emptying boxes, it gets pretty hot and the breeze just doesn't cut it. Not to mention our cable isn't working, and the cable guy that came out saturday coudlnt' fix it, and didn't schedule someone for today, so finally maybe today the cable and internet will work @ home. grrr.
Yaay. the a/c guy is there. What else is new? Oh, I got a red light ticket from the bonehead who stole my car. Yeah, this is never ending. He ran a red light and the intersection was monitored by video and camera so we can all watch the doofus online. the best part has been trying to clear that shit up. I had to call the state (who said I had to pay to get a police report and clear up teh matter), the police (to get a copy of that report--that was last week and I stil haven't heard a word from them), and the DMV (who said to mail the information into them and they'd take care of it). double grr.
Thats my update from the past few days. I have more, more ranting. But for now..thats my dose.
This way w/ signing the lease for the new place, we have plenty of room for everyone, we can be settled now, during, and after the baby comes. We can buy a house this time next year and not worry about 1st time home programs, rushing, or anything like that. Plus, the baby will be waaay months old and it'll be a better time to move rather than right after the baby comes. I just can't see me or the baby being ready for that. And you never know what the weather will be like to move in Feb.
I went to the doctor today to get a mole checked out. He wanted to remove it, but can't b/c I'm preg. He said to come back after the baby comes and he'll do a biopsy. He said remove it, but then come back for a biopsy. does that make sense?! I'm glad I got it looked at. That makes me feel a ton better. Well, not 100% b/c I'm not sure if its cancerous or just a pesky needs to be gone mole.
The moving was tough, I'm glad its over. I'm sorry to say that we did not have a/c all weekend. It wasn't a bad weekend for not having a/c, but when you're moving up and down steps and emptying boxes, it gets pretty hot and the breeze just doesn't cut it. Not to mention our cable isn't working, and the cable guy that came out saturday coudlnt' fix it, and didn't schedule someone for today, so finally maybe today the cable and internet will work @ home. grrr.
Yaay. the a/c guy is there. What else is new? Oh, I got a red light ticket from the bonehead who stole my car. Yeah, this is never ending. He ran a red light and the intersection was monitored by video and camera so we can all watch the doofus online. the best part has been trying to clear that shit up. I had to call the state (who said I had to pay to get a police report and clear up teh matter), the police (to get a copy of that report--that was last week and I stil haven't heard a word from them), and the DMV (who said to mail the information into them and they'd take care of it). double grr.
Thats my update from the past few days. I have more, more ranting. But for now..thats my dose.
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